Editing Building Relationships (section)

== Building Intentional Relationships ==
'''Relationships are rooted in shared values'''. We can identify values that we share by learning each other’s stories, especially “choice points” in our life journeys. The key is asking each other “why?”

'''Relationships are long term'''. Organizing relationships are not simply transactional. We’re not simply looking for someone to meet our ask at the end of a 1:1 meeting (read on for what this means). We’re looking for people to join with us in sustained, long-term growth and action.

'''Relationships are created by mutual commitment'''. Relationships require a commitment from both people involved: a commitment of time, and committing to support the other person even when you may not see anything in it for you. That commitment must be reciprocal. If that commitment only flows in one direction the relationship cannot be sustained. Because we can all grow and change, the purposes that led us to form the relationship may change as well, offering possibilities for deeper relationships or more enriched exchange. The relationship itself becomes a valued resource.

'''Relationships involve consistent attention and work'''. When nurtured over time, relationships sustain motivation and inspiration and become an important source of continual learning and development for the individuals and communities that make up your organizing campaigns.

<div style="background-color:#eee; padding:1em; border:1px solid #ccc;"> Case Study: The 2012 Obama for America campaign had many returning volunteers from the original 2008 campaign. Here are some of the top reasons why volunteers came back:<br><br> 87% said they returned because they had built a meaningful relationship with their team members.<br> 80% said they returned because they had built a meaningful relationship with their organizer.<br> 80% said they returned because their time was used effectively.<br> 84% said it was because they felt welcomed and included.<br> 80% said it was because they had a clear sense of how their efforts contributed.<br><br> Two themes emerge from these numbers: people stay committed because of relationships and because they feel effective. This section unpacks how to build relationships with volunteers. The Strategizing (pg. 56) and Taking Action (pg. 66) sections offers a framework for how to be effective (and make our people feel effective). </div>